Value vs Necessary
When I was a young boy my parents enrolled me into a Karate class at the local YMCA. Classes were held 3 times a week and it was the highlight of my week. I wasn’t great at many things during my childhood but physical activity I excelled at, primarily basketball and Karate. After a full year into the martial arts, my parents asked if I wished to pursue Karate at a higher level – if only you could see the look on my face when I said, “YES!”
I spent the next 8 years of my life from age 8-16 studying Karate, Judo, Western Boxing and Okinawan weapons. Spending 6 days a week, two hours a day after school and then going back to studying left me with an energetic high that I could not describe – it must be felt. During this life-growing time, I had many coaches. Young men and women who taught me the inherent value of discipline, work ethic, attitude, commitment, integrity, honesty, loyalty and never quitting.
These mentors helped mold me into the person I am today. It is through their teachings, wisdom and experience that led me through all forms of adversity both personally and professionally.
I strongly believe that if it was not for them, I wouldn’t have the mental strength and grit to grind through difficult circumstances and most importantly – I would not have the level of faith and commitment towards my dreams that I do today.
Do you need mentors?
That’s certainly debatable, which is why you’re reading this right? Well here’s the thing, my experience and history has taught me that mentors and coaches have added enormous value. Their words and actions I examined and lived through at a very early age created the psychological pattern of an internal manifestation that created my nose-grinding getting things done attitude.
Can we generalize that for everyone? I don’t think we can. I say that with all honesty as I know many people who never had coaches or mentors in their lives, not in the traditional sense. Those few characters had strong parents, an uncle or grand parent that lived with them for many years as a child. It is through their passionate seed that greatness was allowed to blossom.
On the flip side, you have the young athlete or dancer. Their coach and teacher taught them not only how to become more skilled and increase optimal performance in their art, but I guarantee you they taught them something about life. Great teachers leave one common thread of legacy with them, that is developing the values and virtues in young people to become the best version of themselves.
Modern Mentors, Weed Out The Fake Ones
Much has changed since the 80’s and 90’s when I trained in the martial arts. Having mentors that weren’t directly involved in your self-development was practically unheard of, unless you consider so called “Gurus” but let’s save that for later.
Today we have mentors and coaches for literally every industry and niche on the market. They range from life coaches, biz dev mentors, mastermind seminars, marketing coaches and a host of other arenas you can slap a label on and have people pay for your services.
Now don’t get me wrong, my profession is along similar lines. As a holistic health coach, Yoga instructor and Powerlifting coach I use my verbal skills to inspire others to be more self-aware about their health. My years spent training in a physical and mental environment ultimately led me to where I am today.
The tough part about it is
Many professionals have ruined the trust relationship between consumer and those selling their services. It was a sell, sell, sell rhythm that left people with empty pockets and a pure hatred for their coaches and mentors – people they believed were going to help them with their problem.
I totally get it, if I were promised to make $10,000 in one year selling banana peels to people in Uganda (I made that up) who would pass that up! I’d be buying bananas left and right man!
It’s the same thing when it comes to getting healthier or earning income that has the attraction of:
- Passive Income
- 4hr Work Weeks
- 12 Vacations Yearly
- Retiring At 35
Not Everyone Is Doing It
Out of the hundreds of thousands, not all of them are looking to get rich quick and leave everyone else to fend for themselves. There are people who intrinsically desire to help people lose weight, battle depression, get stronger for college sports, learn how to start a business, grow their real estate game and become the most powerful version of them in body, mind and in life.
The difficulty is in finding the right mentor for you but also evaluating if you really need one or not. Take to heart that second part as many of you are so eager for help that desperation clouds your intuition. Sometimes taking your own path and the scars that come along with it is the best choice for personal and professional growth.
That’s the battle, that’s what you must figure out for yourself. If I didn’t have my coaches who mentored me at a young age to compete at a national level, i’m not sure where I would be today. I say that more in line with my mental fortitude rather than winning medals and trophies in my 30’s.
Mentors can help you along the way, but in order to make full use of their time and yours you gotta know what it is you want.
Gurus and Fate
A guru is defined as, “a spiritual teacher, especially one who imparts initiation”.
In today’s marketing and residual income atmosphere a guru is more along the lines of, “an influential teacher or popular expert.”
Nothing wrong with being an influencer at all, there are people who seek direction and purpose in their lives, whether monetizing their passion or learning how to kick an addiction to drugs. What I wish to impart to you today, is to not place gurus on a pedestal. These individuals have taken time (A LOT) to understand themselves and how they want to see change in our world. They can be the beacon of hope in a world full of violence, rage, discrimination and ignorance.
They can also be our worst nightmare…
If you can identify what it is in your life you wish to see different, ask yourself if you have the necessary tools and resources to do it for yourself. If not, seeking a mentor or coach may be the best investment in your personal and professional growth. Understand, that there is a difference between absorbing someone else’s dogma and listening to your gut and intuition.
Your heart will never lie to you, it’s only when your head-brain starts to create doubt and fear that Ego is allowed to change what your heart knows is right.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said,
”Go where there is no path and leave a trail”…
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